I was 22 at the time. It happened with my boyfriend, who I was in a long distance relationship with. We were not as careful as we should have been, and we got caught. I remember being out with my parents... I had like two martinis and a lot of clams and I totally threw up. And I was like, that seems weird-- I have a stronger stomach than that. Then when my period didn't come, I was like oh shit, I know exactly what's going on. I'd always kind of thought, I have no problem with abortion but I wouldn't do it. Yeah, apparently I would.
I remember reading an article about everyone talking about how they'll never forget and they'll always wonder "what if." The author said she didn't feel like that. She was like, the hardest part for me was the moment between finding out I was pregnant and knowing what I was going to do. And I felt the same way. Once I knew what was going to happen I was like, I'm really OK with this. I mean, it was a bad time and my boyfriend and I did the best we could with what we had.
So I remember reading her story and just thinking immediately, yes. Yes. I think a lot of women are not that torn up about it. I know that my boyfriend was much more upset by the whole thing. I think it had a much more drastic effect on us as a couple than on me and my entire outlook.
When it was going on, I was talking to my mom and she was like "I had an abortion." My mom had one before she married my dad-- it was not his. But it was a little harder to get it done then. She remembers driving from Pittsburgh to NY to find someone who would do it. I was like, wow, even my mom-- that's amazing. Half of my good girlfriends all had abortions and told me about it. The more people I meet, itï¿½s like everybody's doing this.
My roommate and I were talking and he said he's politically pro-choice but personally not so much. And I don't want to be like, well you know... I've had an abortion. But it's hard to have the argument without really sort of oversharing. Especially when it's people saying: Oh, well I don't approve of that choice but if it's you...